- LUNA VIENNA Una mujer compartió a través de la red Reddit que le cobra 50 dólares como multa a su novio si llega a casa después de las 4 de la mañana.
Esta persona explica que al principio de la relación, que se ha mantenido por dos años, ella bebía demasiado y se quedaba mirando su teléfono celular hasta la madrugada, lo que molestaba a su novio. Finalmente decidió cambiar y dejar de pasar tanto tiempo pegada a su celular, pero ahora su pareja ha tomado el hábito de irse de fiesta con sus amigos, pasadas las 3 de la mañana.
“Pensé que debería explicarle con calma por qué no estoy de acuerdo con sus acciones. Pero, después de casi un año, todavía lo hace. Entonces, esta noche cuando se fue a la medianoche, hice una proposición. Si cualquiera de nosotros no está en casa a las 4am, tenemos que dar al otro $50 y nadie puede estar enojado”, explica la joven en su publicación, cita el New York Post. Cuando la chica preguntó a los usuarios su opinión, la respuesta de la mayoría es que la relación se ha terminado.
I feel like an asshole. But, I don’t know and have to know! So, hear me out.
My boyfriend and I have been living together for two years. I’m naturally a homebody. But, when we first stated dating, I kind of had a drinking problem. After moving in together, I was still wrestling with alcoholism and stayed out a handful of times (about five times in a year) until 3AM. Frequently, I’d irresponsibly allow my phone to die while I continued drinking. Initially, I didn’t understand how problematic it was because I wasn’t cheating and I was literally half a block away from our apartment and in the same bar that I went to every each time. Every time, my boyfriend expressed that he hated this. He hated the staying out late and he hated the dead phone. He told me it was unacceptable. Eventually, it seemed like such a big deal to my boyfriend that I just sucked it up, stopped staying out late, and stopped drinking.
Fast forward now, it’s over a year since o last stayed out or really drank. My boyfriend got a new set of friends and now he stays out mostly every weekend until 3-5am. I don’t ask who’s he’s with or what he’s doing before he leaves. I don’t bother him while he’s out. I want him to have his space because humans deserve that. But, it still bothers me that he’s late only because of the double standard that he’s set in our relationship. He says that he deserves the benefit of the doubt because “he’ll respond to a call or text at any time”. But, as I stated previously, I almost never call while he’s out unless it’s an emergency because we live together.
At first, it pissed me off. Then, I thought I should just calmly explain to him why I disagree with his actions. But, after almost a year, he still does it. He tells me he’ll be home by a certain time and doesn’t make it. When I him out on how he treats me for coming home late, he backpedals. I’m tired of wasting my breath. So, tonight when he left at midnight, I made a proposition. If either one us aren’t home 4am, we have to give the other $50 and no one can be angry.
My reasoning is that he’s either going to tire of paying the $50 and come home on time or afford me the same level of understanding for occasionally staying out until the bars close.
Am I the asshole? Is he? Are we both assholes?
Edit: Proper and succinct grammar
Edit 2: This proposition was made like 20 minutes ago? I’m serious. But, what do I say to this man? I’ve several times tried to explain to him why I don’t think this double standard is fair. He doesn’t listen. I thought the $50 might serve as some sort of method to say “hey, you’ve stayed out a lot. Remember all of those times I joked about you paying $50 for coming on at 5am and you wouldn’t pay? Please don’t me mad at me for something you’ve done 20 times this year.”
